Neil @ whatdoyouhavetoknow
As I was growing up I was often brought to see my great aunt with my mother. At the time my great aunt was in her 80’s and was living in a senior home.
When I arrived I went to her little room where she had a bed, 2 chairs, a small sink and a television. The facilities were down the hall ad shared by many.
Every time I went into the room I noticed the television was tuned to a station showing the great war WW2 documentaries. At first it was very fascinating but eventually I became bored. As I sat there looking for something to do I watched my mother talking with my great aunt and what struck me was how intent my mother was listening to what she had to say. On my next visit more of the same but what I heard was a repetition of what was said the week before. Yet my mother sat and listened intently as if she heard it for the first time.
As I got older and found myself visiting seniors (not related) I was already conditioned to expect stories of their past and there varied exploits. The theme always reverted back to the days in the war and what they went through and how kids today did not appreciate what they had done for country and family.
Well, my experiences visiting my great aunt help me to be a patient listener. I enjoyed hearing the stories and exploits. I engaged them to tell me more. We would dialogue for hours and in the end they were extremely appreciative of my giving them the time to voice their concerns and history.
I personally did not find this to be a chore at all. In fact, I truly enjoyed sitting and listening. And why wouldn’t I. Seniors have done a lot to make what I have available. They sacrificed their lives to provide all of is with everything we have today.
All too often I hear people say how seniors are a pain both from taking care of them and moreover listening. How people can say this astounds me to the core of my existence. The seniors who provided for them without question and now they are treated like pariah. They place the importance over their own lives over the ones that gave them everything they have today and that is deplorable.
At some point in time everyone, health permitting, will be a senior wanting to shout out stories and experiences. Today’s adults and children can learn a lot from their seniors who without fail protected, cared and helped them.
So why not take an hour of your busy lives and just sit and listen. Be patient and engage the seniors. This is all they have left to look forward to. They are placed in homes, willing or not, and are left to interact on their own with people they do not know. Especially those who are inclined to interact. These folks really need someone to talk and listen to them so they do not feel left out and lonely.
The generation today is fully occupied in their own existences and have to take an hour of their time for someone else is often seen as a waste. Well, no it is not and nor should it ever be looked at that way.
Treat our seniors with the respect they deserve and give them the time they so truly need.
I look forward to hearing your stories and experiences with seniors. Please feel free to add your commentary below ad share this post with your friends and family. It will go a long way, I hope.
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